one thing about me is that when i see "toxic" behavior – especially coming from my friends – I'm gonna call it out, and I would hope that they would do the same for me. And by toxic, I'm talking about things like racism, homophobia, body shaming, transphobia; stuff like that. ⬇️
one thing about me is that when i see “toxic” behavior – especially coming from my friends – I’m gonna call it out, and I would hope that they would do the same for me. And by toxic, I’m talking about things like racism, homophobia, body shaming, transphobia; stuff like that. ⬇️
⬆️and imma keep it real with you: THERE ARE NO MITIGATING FACTORS! Were you drunk? High? Having a mental breakdown? Those are things that turn your “filter” off. But if you are constantly having to filter out those hateful statements, then the problem isn’t that you weren’t filtering at the time,⬇️
⬆️the problem is that you have that hate deep down in your heart. That’s the problem. No one is perfect and nothing changes over night so take some time and fix yourself. Now why am I bringing all of this up right now? Well a few weeks ago, I called someone out for something hateful that they ⬇️
⬆️said. They sent a wall of text downplaying it, justifying it, and then attacking me for GENTLY calling them out for it. DARVO Deny Attack Reverse victim/offender It was textbook DARVO. I told them my feelings, apologized for making them feel attacked, and told them to take as much time as⬇️
⬆️they needed to think things over and hopefully they would feel like being my friend again and if not then I would respect that. Three weeks go by with zero response from them and then I start getting block notifications that they’re blocking my accounts on here. That hurts, because this person⬇️
⬆️was one of my best friends of all time. I have block notifications turned on here for reasons that make sense given my occupation and other situations, but it also works out well in this scenario, because this person has demonstrated a habit of posting publicly about people that they feel have ⬇️
⬆️slighted them, and I’m no dummy y’all, I was often times skeptical of what they were saying about people after they had blocked them. They’re blocking me little by little on different platforms and have already done some vague-posting about me, twisting facts. No, just because I pointed out a ⬇️
⬆️behavior that you don’t like about yourself doesn’t mean I was “being mean”. Just because you have a condition that MIGHT explain your behavior, does not excuse your behavior. Just because I know you have said condition and didn’t let that give you carte blanche does not mean that I’m against⬇️
⬆️ people with that condition and does not mean that I don’t make accommodations for people with that condition. Posting about it, even in vague was ways, and then talking about “no revenge” and how it doesn’t even bother you… bestie I fear that is contradictory. So I feel that it’s only a ⬇️
⬆️matter of time (if they haven’t already begun) before this person really begins twisting the truth around and slandering my good name. I guess I should unblock all those people in the fandom they convinced me to block just in case they have more info. And I’ll have to wait for my other friends to⬇️
⬆️start telling me when this person is talking shit about me. And when that time comes, as I’ve said, I have the entirety of all of our conversations on every platform archived, so I will have no choice but to correct their misinformation with full context objective truth. And of course sue. ⬇️
⬆️ because my reputation is very important to me. It has a big impact on my professional life and personal life, so yeah I’ll spend thousands on lawsuits to stop this if I need to. If my professional and personal life gets messed up from someone else’s lies – especially professional – that messes⬇️
⬆️with my ability to provide for my family. Dang. That sounds like the last thing someone with any brains would want to do to me. How silly of them. At this point, I’d be content to never hear from this person again, but, unfortunately, they don’t seem content to move on. ⬇️
⬆️oh and also one time they stole one of my memes. That’s kinda fucked up. 🔚
i forgot to mention, the DARVO + isolating is classic narcissistic behavior. Narcissistic behavior indicates the presence of the “wounded inner child”. I’m bringing this up in case the person is still creeping on me and reads this: I really want you to heal. It’s a long arduous journey but it’s ⬇️
⬆️worth it. I would know. And despite the fact that I don’t really like you right now, I still believe in you and know that you can do it. So, in spite of everything, I’m still hoping for all the best for you. (and before anyone jumps down my throat, pointing out narcissistic behavior is not⬇️
⬆️the same thing as calling someone a narcissist or trying to “arm-chair psychiatrist” diagnose someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I would never do that. Anyone can exhibit these types of behavior regardless of whether or not they have NPD. For what it’s worth, I, a lay person, do ⬇️
⬆️ not think that the person I’m talking about has NPD, nor an I qualified to say that they do or do not. 🔚
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Comment (Put what kind of phone or computer or browser you’re using)
Name (doesn’t need to be real but it should match how I know you. A username from the website you contacted me on or your first name or nickname if I know you in real life)
Email (Does not need to be real email. fake@test.com is fine if you don’t want to use your real email. I’m not going to keep it anyway)
MH1823D To access the secret menu, turn off the unit with the power button and then hold down the up and down buttons at the same time. The unit will turn back on. • Change settings with the up and down buttons. • Scroll through the menu with the M button To exit the menu, press the power button.
Is white the right color for these covers? Would black be better? That way it would match the thermostat. #Asthma#HomeAutomation #SCADA#HVAC#3Dprint#SmartHone#Zigbee#Tuya#HomeAssistant#Thermostat
🧵Gather round chat… did I ever tell you that the guy i bought this house from was evidently a GOD DAMNED LUNATIC? THIRTEEN THERMOSTATS!Thirteen!12 for heat, and one for air-conditioning. This does not bode well for asthmatic me. Let me explain. Air-conditioning lowers the temperature, ⬇️
⬆️yes, but, it also lowers the ABSOLUTE humidity. (Idk and IDC what it does to the *relative* humidity). This makes the waaaay easier for me to breathe.You see, high (absolute) humidity is my biggest asthma trigger. As far as my lungs are concerned, it's like breathing soup. Cooler air with less⬇️
⬆️moisture in it is way easier for me to breathe. Not to mention, cool air is less inflammatory. Also, I sometimes have hot flashes as a side effect of some of the 'roids they got me on, and heat is also an issue because I have P.O.T.S. So, when I'm having difficulty breathing AND my ⬇️
⬆️cardiovascular system decides it isn't going to pump enough blood into my brain, one of the many things I'm gonna do to get out of that crisis is lower the thermostat det temperature, and then immediately start a breathing treatment. When my lungs, heart, and veins are all taking five, me getting ⬇️
⬆️up and doing cardio isn't a good idea!!! Solution: Connect all of those 13 thermostats to a central controller. I should be able to hit one button or say one magic word and all of the heat thermostats turn to 0 and the air conditioning turns on. This way I'm getting the cooler air AND I'm also⬇️
⬆️NOT causing the cold air to trigger 10 baseboard heaters and 2 wall heaters to fight each other! I'm using a combination of apps and protocols and it's still a work in progress, but, for the 10 baseboard heat thermometers, I finally have finalized a solution! Kay 3D printed some thermostat cover⬇️
⬆️and I installed several MH1823D baseboard heat smart thermostats. They connect via Tuya/SmartLife into my Home Assistant instance and also into Google Assistant. I've got four more of those to go. Then phase 2 is for me to locate the smart thermostats I got for free like four or five years ago⬇️
⬆️ because it's one of the ones that replace normal thermostats, and it can control the air conditioning. Phase 3 is to figure out how I'm going to hack the wall heaters. They're basically space heaters built in to the wall. I guess I can set them for maximum heat, but run their power source ⬇️
⬆️ through more of those MH1823D thermostats, so that way the smart thermostat is what's deciding if the dumb wall heaters should turn on or not. Phase 4 is the final phase, and I do not know what that's going to entail. This phase is having an additional air conditioner installed. Maybe on of ⬇️
⬆️those fancy Mitsubishi wall air conditioners. This is because the previous owner had ZERO air conditioning in the basement, and, because this is a partially exposed basement (i.e. party basement) it gets up to 80°F/27°C in the summertime, so, especially for an asthmatic like me, that's unacceptble⬇️
⬆️not to mention my server equipment is down there. In the winter time, i only need heat for 8 or 10 weeks because leaving the server room door open heats the entire basement. So anyway, if I'm getting a fancy, futuristic Mitsubishi turbo air conditioner, I'm betting it's going to have the ability⬇️
⬆️to integrate into one of my remote control things. Zigbee? Tuya? Google? Home Assistant? Something else? Anyway, here's what the cute little thermostats look like with their cover. (is white the right color for these? would black be better?)🧵🔚
In 2103 or so I wanted my cellphone to track satellites in real time.
It was a budget phone in 2013 and I had no money to pay for an app.
I downloaded a free windows executable to my Linux server (a dumpster laptop) and got it to run in W.I.N.E.
Then I ran a Linux distro on my budget phone in a chroot jail
Then tunneled the X window manager via an SSH connection from my cellphone to the server
Then I tracked satellites with my phone… in real… time in class… in 2013.
“But Tony, what if you got in trouble for playing on your phone?”
In 2013 I was going to a for-profit (yuck) university for computer networking. The class was about client/server networking. When I got “caught playing on my phone”, I showed the teacher with a big dumb grin on my face. Then he gave me extra credit.
A while later, one of the students got called out by the teacher because one by one he was distracting all the other students with whatever was on his laptop screen.
The teacher said “alright, turn your laptop around. Let’s see what’s on the screen.”
It was the Doritos Locos taco on Taco Bell’s “coming soon” wesbite.
“Holy shit!” yelled the teacher and he immediately pulled the website up on his laptop, projecting it on the wall where the slide deck had been, and the whole class analyzed the future taco
in my dream I was too far from home and had to pull over. I figured out which way the targets were and got behind a wall. two girls were coloring on the ground. i heard gunshots in one of the nearby houses. lightning on a clear day. The sun came up casting shadows. more lighting. another sunrise.⬇️ https://bsky.app/profile/anthonyscardina.com/post/3ljs2d6jxf22y
⬆️ They kept coloring. fully exposed to the light from the “sunrise”. I wasn’t shielded like i thought i was and a couple of them blasted me in the back. It felt hot at first, as you would imagine. then numb and then like something wet and heavy was stuck to my back. it was my back, dead now and⬇️ https://bsky.app/profile/anthonyscardina.com/post/3ljs2izroqc2y
⬆️ already beginning to slough off. No point in telling them. Let them have this happy moment. If a shockwave didn’t take us out in the next few minutes, we had about 12 hours tops at this point. I thought about my own kids. Curiosity got the better of me and i turned around with my eyes basically ⬇️ https://bsky.app/profile/anthonyscardina.com/post/3ljs2kywkpc2y
⬆️closed. i saw two mushroom clouds. wasn’t sure what one was over top of, but the other was some steel mill shipping ports. We’re close to an army base; when that gets bombed we’ll be vaporized. my kids are near an industrial center so they’ll meet the same fate. I tried not to think about them ⬇️ https://bsky.app/profile/anthonyscardina.com/post/3ljs2oofazk2y
⬆️ I wondered if the nightmares i had as a little kid about UFOs in the sky seeing me and taking me away were some kind of omen – lights in the sky taking people. I wonder if this is what the Palestinians experience. The kids stopped coloring. “hey mister” one of them said. my alarm clock went off⬇️ https://bsky.app/profile/anthonyscardina.com/post/3ljs2sdf3r22y
⬆️ and I’m in bed. There’s no nuclear war. I’m safe. my family is safe. roof over our head. lights on. heat. food. television. Internet. I’m gonna get stressed about stupid stuff like Excel spreadsheets and bills instead of being vaporized with no one but frightened strangers around me. 🔚 https://bsky.app/profile/anthonyscardina.com/post/3ljs2wo5fm22y
A thread from my Bluesky. The first post in the thread is linked below.
It’s frustrating when I call my ISP’s tech support and 𝗜 have to walk 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 through the process of getting me to the right person (usually by proving them wrong). I can live with 𝐟𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠. 𝐅𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 is probably not going to kill me. But this thread isn’t about my ISP, it’s about my doctors⬇️
⬆️When I call in to my doctor’s office because part of MyChart isn’t working, it’s not my health care provider (et al)’s job to fix it. No one in that office is their because of their IT training – they’re there to provide healthcare, not technical support. HOWEVER, since they are compelling their ⬇️
⬆️ patients to use MyChart, it 𝒊𝒔 their job to g͟e͟t͟ ͟i͟t͟ ͟f͟i͟x͟e͟d͟. Not to fix it, but to get it fixed. Why? Because they are the healthcare provider, and this is how they are providing healthcare. So when I call in to a doc’s office, and 𝑰 have to walk 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎 through the process of how 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒚 open a ⬇️
⬆️ support ticket with MyChart, it’s more than just frustrating. See, I don’t know the “qualifications” of the person that answered the phone, and it doesn’t matter. They did not know their office’s procedure for when a 𝒑𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒕 cannot access this 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘆 part of 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒕𝒉𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆 that they are 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒗𝒊𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈.⬇️
⬆️ Who’s fault is that? Leadership. It’s the managers’ jobs to make sure that the people are trained, and middle management’s job to make sure the managers have the training material and time to train, and upper management’s job to make sure that the resources (money) are available for training. But⬇️
⬆️What am I getting at? If the entire office staff (this is the case) does not know that they are supposed to open a support ticket, what else don’t they know? What if a patient has symptoms so bad that the doctor said “we need to watch this like a hawk. wear this monitor for x amount of time ⬇️
⬆️ starting today because we need results as soon as possible.” and the nurse gives the patient the wrong monitor AND wrong instructions, delaying subsequent tests and procedures when TIME IS A FACTOR? This is what happened to me in January. What if it wasn’t a heart monitor but the wrong med or ⬇️
⬆️ medication instructions? What if certain meds were supposed to be stopped before a test, but the instructions were incomplete and ambiguous so the meds weren’t stopped and the test results were skewed? That also happened to me. It’s the provider’s OBLIGATION to make these instructions clear ⬇️
⬆️and educate patients on their medication usage. So now back to the office that doesn’t know their proper procedures. One can make assumptions, but, how do I 𝑲𝑵𝑶𝑾 that my cardiologist isn’t also unaware of procedures? He could be performing heart surgery on me one day! So it’s beyond 𝒇𝒓𝒖𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 ⬇️
⬆️ it’s dangerous. Dangerous to the patients health/well-being/life. It’s literally a matter of life or death for patients with life-threatening illnesses. American Government: This is not how you build a country that wins. If your citizens are all sick and dying, sure it helps them stay indebted ⬇️
⬆️ to your “interests”, but what about when TheBoogieman™ finally comes and invades with millions of people? Who’s gonna protect your little bunkers once the military is overrun? Not the general population! they will all be too sick, or already dead, or just exhausted. 🔚
I’ve been on the Nextdoor app for several years. It seemed to me that there was a lot more harassment than I would have expected. Harassment, unfortunately, exists on every social media platform. But the amount on Nextdoor surprised me, not because there was more than other platforms, no, but because Nextdoor is (was) less anonymous than other platforms like Facebook or Twitter.
When I joined Nextdoor, the requirements for a user’s profile were more strict. At the time, you needed an invite from an established user, you were required to use your government first and last name, your profile picture could not be of someone other than you (it could blank or be a picture of the user’s face), and there were strict requirements for technical controls to verify that you are in the location you claim to be.
There was a lot more harassment than I would have expected! In my experience, people, in general, are less likely to bully when they know they can’t hide behind their keyboard. If you called your neighbor a butthead, your neighbor would know exactly who said it! This usually dissuades people from doing things like that, but not always.
Over the years, Nextdoor rolled those above mentioned requirements back. As those requirements all became more and more lax, the harassment increased proportionally.
2. Study Methodology and Synopsis
The goal was to identify demographic characteristics of Nextdoor users participating in online harassment. Because of the sheer volume, I limited this study to only include disproportionately aggressive behavior(example: User B threatens bodily harm because User A dyed their hair).
To make matters more complicated, many of these users did not include a face picture for their profile picture, thus negating facial recognition as an avenue of discovery, and also set their display names to First Name, Last Name Initial (e.g. I would appear as Tony S.)
This left some dots to be connected
Once I found someone exhibiting disproportionately aggressive behavior, I started with their first name and last name initial. The second piece of information is the name of the Nextdoor Neighborhood that the user belongs to. Nextdoor Neighborhoods are divisions within a location, and are at least partially created by Nextdoor users. This has lead to “neighborhoods” that don’t always match up with real world neighborhoods, districts, boroughs, or other administrative divisions. Their borders also appear to me to be mostly arbitrary.
Nevertheless, these Nexdoor Neighborhoods are useful. Nextdoor provides a map that shows each of these. So, when there was a user not showing their full name, I would re-create the neighborhood on Google’s MyMaps. These are maps that are private and, because of my security settings, only viewable by me.
The next step was to get all the addresses of real people with that first name and whose last name starts with that initial. If I were searching myself, I’d need to know all of the “Tony S.”s that live in my city.
To do this, I utilized the State of Ohio’s voter database. State law requires that each county make available to the public data about voters and voting activity for various accountability reasons. The people in the study were primarily located in two counties, so I downloaded those data sets and imported them into a private database server.
A Note on Data Privacy
The network, servers, databases, and end-points all adhere to strict data security regulations and practices as outlined in NIST FIPS and NIST SP 800-53, and are aligned with SOC2 requirements. In addition, the data was deleted at the conclusion of the study, eliminated residual risk to the people in the data set. The MyMaps were also deleted at the end of the study for the same reason.
My next step was to query the data set for the partial names, and have it output a file of names, addresses, and dates of birth that match. This file was then imported into the private MyMaps map for the study.
Sample database output
Often times, several pins would appear on the map, but only one of those pins would appear in the Nextdoor Neighborhood that I added to the map. This in essence deanonymized the username, revealing the user’s age.
Sample Map with pins and neighborhood
As for determining a user’s gender, this was mostly self-reported by the user, either by stating it in other posts or profiles on social media, or including their pronouns in their social media profile bio. When that information was missing, I would use whatever clues I could find and make an educated guess.
Once the study was completed, the database, database outputs, and maps were deleted.
The final step was simple: Each row of a spreadsheet contained the age and gender of each person exhibiting disproportionately aggressive behavior. The precision of the ages was then changed from years to decades. Finally, spreadsheet formulas were used to tabulate the number of mean in each decade and women in each decade.
Then I made a chart!
Data collection was done whenever I saw an example over the course of a few weeks. Gathering the additional information took about an hour. Tabulating the data took about 20 minutes.
3. Key Findings and Conclusion
The most likely person to Disproportionately Aggressive Behavior is a woman in her 60s.
I was planning on gathering other demographic information such as political affiliation and property ownership status, but honestly, I got bored with it and moved on to something else.
I wanna set the record straight (maybe I make it a blog post as well) IDGAF personally what desktop operating system someone chooses. Period. If I see someone complaining about something stressing them the hell out, I would be remiss if I DIDN’T recommend an operating system that would solve that⬇️ https://bsky.app/profile/anthonyscardina.com/post/3lhjkxxbpec26
⬆️problem they’re having AND I’m happy to walk them through the switch. As someone with years of training, education, experience, and expertise, it is my DUTY to reach out. It’s EVERYONE’S CIVIC DUTY to help their fellow human, and this is just one of the ways I do that. If this makes me a ⬇️ https://bsky.app/profile/anthonyscardina.com/post/3lhjl4rglvk26
⬆️ “reply guy” , then the professional in me says “so be it” but honestly the correct answer to me being labeled a “reply guy” is actually”eat shit and die” because A RISING TIDE LIFTS ALL SHIPS! Do not fucking keep that tide low and think that there are not repercussions to harming the overall ⬇️ https://bsky.app/profile/anthonyscardina.com/post/3lhjla3q3kk26
⬆️mental health of those individuals by suppressing the solutions to their problems, and thus harming the over all health of society! But what DOES piss me off? What fills me with righteous indignation? Is asshole mother fuckers that spread misinformation and misinformation about those solutions. ⬇️ https://bsky.app/profile/anthonyscardina.com/post/3lhjld77knk26
⬆️ Sometimes it’s not intentional, sometimes it is, but it is always someone implying that they are an expert when all they know is that it did not work for them flawlessly on the first try. This does not paint a complete picture, and dissuades people from using the solution that’s going to in the ⬇️ https://bsky.app/profile/anthonyscardina.com/post/3lhjlgqabys27
⬆️ long run better their mental health. and why do they do this? to boost their own ego? either consciously or subconsciously. they think that’s a good enough reason to further someone else’s suffering, no matter how minor? For those people, IT’S ON SIGHT! (where’s the Minecraft legal disclaimer?)🔚 https://bsky.app/profile/anthonyscardina.com/post/3lhjlje5kpk27
This is a place holder. I’m holding myself accountable by putting this here so that I remember to fill this post in with the data and conclusions I’ve collected as of November 2024 regarding the demographics of people that self-reported voting for/against school tax levies
